Communication is the fuel that keeps the fire of love burning. When a relationship turns speechless or gets cold, it begins to die. Assumptions and suspicions creep in, and spouses start to ‘fill in the blanks’ for the grey areas in their relationship. They jump to wrong conclusions that eventually plunge the relationship further into troubled waters.

Speechlessness is a ticking time bomb; it gradually pushes any relationship to the edge. The truth is, there is no substitute for talking/communication in a relationship. Every individual has an innate desire for companionship; that includes someone to talk to, share, and relate with. When communication dies, the ‘exit door’ begins to look more attractive.

Follow me as I show you seven things you can do to rid your relationship of speechlessness and get the spark back in your relationship. I will not load you with too much now, so you can engage with the information and have time to discuss it with your partner and put them to practice.

1. BREAK THE ICE: There is no other way to say this – somebody needs to take the dive and disrupt the status quo. Speechlessness will continue until ‘speech’ gets introduced. No matter how many days speechlessness has persisted, one party must swallow his/her pride and break the ice. Both spouses must decide what is important to them and deal with the issues that threaten the peace of their marriage. Sometimes, silence may arise from the guilt of a mistake you do not want to be exposed. However, talking will open an avenue for confession. Stretching the hand of friendship can help break the separating wall and make your partner open up.
2. BLOW THE WHISTLE AND CALL FOR A TIME OUT: When you start noticing tension in your relationship/marriage, do not ignore it. If you sense your spouse is withdrawing or giving monosyllabic answers, do not leave them to ‘sort themselves out’. Engage! Ask what the matter is; ask if something is bothering them that they want to talk about. Do not wait till communication breaks down and speechlessness is the order of the day. I will rather squash the egg than deal with the viper after it’s hatched. If couples learn to engage early, they will eventually become experts in conflict resolution and communication.

Does any of these resonate with you? Why not make a move to bridge the gap today?

See you in the next episode for more exciting practical solutions to speechlessness. Meanwhile, let me hear your thoughts and questions in the comment section. I will like to engage with you.

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